Wednesday, January 19, 2011

A Housewife and her Kitty Party

She is a housewife, never did any job. Her husband is a government officer, a Class 1 Officer. She has two children and a house in Delhi. One child is away from home, studying abroad, and the younger one busy with her studies. Her husband is posted in another city and away from the family. So what does Mrs. S do in her free time?

Speaking to her the other day, S my friend spoke out her heart. I have known her for quite some time, yet don’t know her. I’m not a person who likes to peep into others lives. But some friends are close and speak out their mind frankly, discuss their problems and I too do the same with them

But S, she’s an introvert. Then how does she cope up with her Kitty Group.

...look around for answer...

Kitty Party has never been in my list for recreation. I hate these simple thought...I hate gossip and wasting my time into doing nothing but only loosening my purse for few hours of pleasure.

And S, she’s a member of a Kitty Party. Every fortnight the group comes together and have fun. But S again is not a fun-loving person. So how does she cope up with her group?

...scratch my head...

The other day she came up to me and spoke about her Kitty Party group. I came to know she has been with her Kitty group for the past six years. With her husband away and children busy with their studies, she has lots of spare time. So she liked the idea of joining a Kitty Party.

The regular get together was a way of spending her time to get rid of the boredom. But now she feels she is wasting her time in that group. New members have joined who are financially very sound and show off their clothes and jewellery. There’s a lot of gossiping, mostly back- biting, that’s what she told me.

Then, there was a time when she had liked all this. She had been so enthusiastic about her Kitty Party.

...why this sudden change?

I could read from her words that competition among each other has grown. Jealousy is another factor. Younger members, younger than her, have joined the group. Topics for discussion don’t match with each other. And gossip and back biting has topped the list.

At last she has realised she gains nothing out of her group, only return home with a headache and a mind full of ill thoughts.

Now, though she wants to stay away, she says, it’s not easy. But she can if she wants to, that’s what I told her.

And to add few more words about it I said, “Where there’s a will, there’s a way”.

She gave me a hug and we went home. Hope she finds her way out.

Share your thought about Kitty Party.


  1. “Where there’s a will, there’s a way”.
    good post

  2. Gouri, I always envied people women who have the luxury of not working. Dont get me wrong, I love being financially independent. But the job keeps me busy on my toes 5 days in a week and very little or no time for myself. And the weekends fly by in a jiffy.

    I always thought being a house wife woud be the solution. But I guess not. It comes with its own strings attached isnt it.

    We are always looking for a way out, no matter where we are.

  3. I have always enjoyed kitty parties, as they freshen you up, but I prefer with similar like minded people, once I joined a group who as you mentioned were all showing off their riches not their minds, and I had to leave them.

  4. Madhu, the work of a housewife is not an easy one. I think some hours away from the everyday duties of the home gives freedom to the mind, away from home and forgetting about all the work there.
    I've been working from home (for years now) and that gives double trouble. Have to look into both the sides...home - can't neglect it and at the same time deliver on time the work I've taken up .
    Wherever you look...going for a job or being a house wife...both have their pros and cons.
    But happiness lies in accepting and adjusting...that's how I feel.

  5. Renu, I've avoided Kitty party because of the same reason. Instead I've been engaged with different kind of social work that suits happy with it.